Why Am I Still Not Married? The Silver Lining of Being Single:
1) There Is Nothing Wrong with You!
-Allah created the beautiful, unique you, and if He decrees it, someone out there will agree to marry you just the way you are.
-So do not despair of Allah’s mercy, and remain positive that someone out there will like you and agree to marry you, in Shaa’ Allah.
-Never let others make you feel that if you are thirty-something and still not married, it is because either there is something wrong with you, or because Allah has decreed for you to forever remain single
2) Divine Wisdom behind Perceived “Delays” in Marriage
-Marriage can take place at any age in life, even at 50 or 60, as Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and many of his companions practically demonstrated.
-It is also a fact that marriage will not happen within the first 2 or 3 decades of life for every one of us. So we should give more leeway and refrain from making blanket, generalized statements about our older, single brothers and sisters.
3) Becoming Mature and Responsible Enough First
-It is not that God is not answering your du’as. Maybe He has already accepted your du’as for marriage with a righteous person, but it will actually happen practically after a few more years, when it is best and easiest for you to enter this sacred union with that person.
- He knows everything about you that even you do not know, which is called ‘the Unseen’, or “ghaib” in Arabic.
4)Da’wah Experience and Acquisition of Knowledge
-Perhaps God wants you to seek more knowledge and engage in more active da’wah work before you settle down in married life. #These precious years of your youth will never return, and In Shaa Allah, decades down the road, a more mature and wise you will cherish, like a priceless gem, every year of experience that you acquired in the fields of Islamic knowledge and da’wah before getting married.
5) Better than Early Divorce
-It could be that your being single, which is a painful trial of patience in your eyes, is a blessing in disguise that is acting as a barrier between you and worse calamities and adversities.
6) Increase in Humility
-A delay in marriage increases one’s humility, and makes one more down-to-earth and approachable by others. It also ensures that one constantly keeps turning to Allah in earnest du’as - which is something that Allah loves about His slaves!
7) Blessings Received after Hardship Are Cherished More
The more one waits for, works hard for, and remains patient for acquiring a blessing, the more one cherishes it after one receives it.And by then these precious blessings will be so much more worth the wait!